Today, we met up with the management of CS Montessori and discussed @ length on Abel's school readiness so far. The moment of truth came when they found him lagging behind in terms of attention span, speech ability and emotional management. It was concluded that it would be best to discontinue his presence in the centre in 2013.
My heart really dropped to the bottom pit when we realised that Abel was just not good enough for the rigour of this enrichment centre. Seems like all the efforts we had put in him were not good enough.
As a double whammy, we forfeited the placing @ Brmck for 2013; now he was denied of a place in CSM. Suddenly, we are @ a crossroad. To do intensive therapy for 2013? Or look for a school that has teachers knowledgeable in this area?
I know this is not his fault for misbehaving in class. Impulsiveness varies from child to child. It is unfortunate that the teachers are clueless in managing him and conclude that he is lagging behind wrt the milestones. We as his parents also do not expect them to give much attention to him @ the expense of others. I believe they must have tried their best in getting to Abel. However, I think it must be too overwhelming for him in completing written tasks within. 2 hours. @ 3.5 yo going 4.
I cried a bit when I was on my way home after grocery shopping. Besides Adrian, I really don't know who I can trust and relate to. All these ongoing activities cum therapy tire us out. However, when hope is in vain, we were reminded by God that as his parents, we have a responsibility to nurture him to find favour in both God and Man. Knowing his main obstacles may suggest a bumpy road ahead, but we pray that God will give us the grace to succumb this shame and change it into a deep strength for our little one.
When the world turns its back on you, always understand they do not know your child well enough. Forgive them as they trespass against you. Be hopeful always and look out for those who believe in your child and are willing to work with you in tandem with his development.
In retrospect, it's a good thing he's out of this CSM pressure cooker. I kinda panicked when they started pushing him tons of written work to do. While they may have fulfilled the requirement in preparing the child for mainstream schools, I think they also kinda kill the spontaneity for learning. It's also getting super structured and rigid in fostering the spirit of compliance or even conformity. Where is the creativity?
